Why Being Busy Is Not Good For Your Heart

February 17, 2017

“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: it is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Writer of “The Little Prince”


Years ago, I was talking to my Aunt Grace telling her how busy my life was and she asked me, “Do you know what the Chinese character for busy is?” I replied, “Yes. Mang.” She asked me if I knew how to write it? I didn’t. She wrote it on a piece of paper:

She explained to me that one side of the character means “dead” and the other side means “heart”.

Busy = Dead heart.

I felt like the wind had been knocked out of me. I had used that word for so long that friends would start conversations with me saying “I know you’re really busy but…”

I was known for being busy.

From that moment on, I made a vow to myself. I was going to stop telling people that I was busy. But more importantly, I was going to get in touch with my heart.

When I made that vow, I didn’t really know what that journey would entail. All I knew was that I didn’t want to live my life with a dead heart. What I didn’t know was that getting in touch with my heart meant opening up places I’d hermetically sealed where I had held so much pain. So much pain that my heart literally hurt. Physically hurt. It hurt. It hurt so much it burned.

But, then I realized something ~ I don’t have a dead heart.

It’s alive. It beats. It feels. And it knows. It knows things that my head doesn’t. By opening up to the pain of my heart, I also opened up to the treasure underneath ~ secrets about myself that I had long forgotten. Things that I thought that I wanted were not things that my heart really wanted.

By keeping myself busy, I had not given my heart what it wanted and needed most: space. My heart needed space to explore, to uncover, to find… me.

It’s easy to get lost in the millions of little distractions that keep us from connecting to that deep inner place. And yet, that is the place that holds the key to everything. It’s the key to you.

What if you took a moment right now to close your eyes, take a deep breath and feel into your heart? Just notice who is there.  

If that’s hard to do, or you’re a little stuck, or if there are a lot of feelings and you need support, there are still a few more days left for the early bird pricing for my 1~Day Artists’ Workshop on Sunday, February 26th. I’m holding a container for hearts to truly open to what they really want. If your heart is calling you to connect, join me.


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